Do you feel ready as a parent?  Ready for the next stage of parenting that you are facing?  It is easy to struggle thinking of yourself being an intentional parent when so much uncertainty exists about being ready to do it.

 

Being an Intentional parent isn’t about being so onto it that we are never caught by surprise.  Being intentional is about how we respond to the unexpected (be it unexpected circumstances, or unexpected reactions from our child) far more than it is about being prepared for every eventuality. We can never be ready for everything that comes our way as a parent but we can be prepared to handle it well.

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  1. Being intentional is about how we respond – not how we control things.
  2. At all times we need to show our children what a relationship with God looks like, not what living by rules looks like.
  3. We need to see that every thing that happens in our family is an opportunity to grow together in faith, character or practical life-skills.
  4. Understand that relationship with our kids is our primary objective as a parent – and with a relationship we will be able to be a part of their journey.
  5. Understand that our responses to life will have a bigger impact on our children than anything we teach or say they should do.

 

When we have these attitudes (you could nearly call them a parenting-world-view) then when the unexpected happens we can respond intentionally.

 

  • We can teach or correct intentionally.
  • We can encourage intentionally.
  • We can relate intentionally.

 

By keeping an eye on the issues of the heart – at every parenting turn – means when something happens we don’t react to the situation – we use the situation for the bigger picture (our children’s hearts and life skills).  

 

There is one more thing that prepares us to be ready – regardless of what comes our way: And that is self-control.  As parents we must have self-control enough to pause, take a deep breath, and respond instead of react.  

 

Responding tends to be considered.

Reacting tends to be more knee-jerk.

 

We have to develop the self-control that when something unexpected happens (aka our kids misbehave, or have an accident, or circumstances don’t happen like we planned), we have to have enough self-control to pause and remember what is important: to be true to our God in all that we do, and to build a relationship with our kids.  

 

An intentional parent will still be surprised by the unexpected but they will be ready to handle it because they know what is important.

 

Written with Tuesday @ Ten prompt in mind: Ready

 

 

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Which one of these attitudes is well established in your thinking, and which one needs some work?  I’d love it if you’d leave a comment.

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