This week’s Five Minute Friday word is Invite.  The idea is to write for 5 minutes and to share it as it is – no edits.  This is a journal piece I’ve written to myself, and to others as I know I’m not alone in a desire to connect with people and to build relationships deeper than just ‘hello’.

Invite is the beginning of friendship but if we let our excuses stop us from giving that invite we never get there.

We are coming towards the end of the year and as I start to reflect on how I went with some of the goals or ideas I had for this year I know that I haven’t done as well with building relationships as I would have liked.  I had a few specific goals of hospitality.

  • I wanted to catch up with a friend once a week
  • I wanted to share a meal with a couple/family once a fortnight
  • I wanted to have a Christian-church-in-this-town potluck 4 times in the year
  • I wanted to have a Christian-womens night 4 times in the year

I’ve done a little of this over the year – but nowhere near as consistent as I would have liked.  As I pondered this week’s 5 Minute Friday word, Invite: I realized that invite is the beginning of welcome, the beginning of friendship.

 

Friendship starts with an invite. Be brave. Do it.

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Unless I issue an invite – the person won’t come.  I can have the best of intentions, but unless I put words to the invite our time together won’t happen.

Why no invite?

So why haven’t I done these things?  Why haven’t I sent out an invite? For me, I have got caught up in the everyday drama of life.  The to do list.  The humdrum of busy.

Other reasons people might not issue an invite:

  • We are too busy and it slips our mind (as I said, this is my excuse)
  • We are too tired
  • It is expensive to cook food for another family
  • We are too worried about the house being clean or big enough
  • We don’t have time or desire to cook a fancy meal
  • We are anxious they won’t like us or won’t come
  • Husband not on board with the idea of hospitality (in general or with those people in particular)

Most of these excuses need to be addressed head on and with a little creativity we could find workable solutions.  If we really want to be a blessing to others and to have meaningful friendships we need to make it happen.  No excuses.

Note:  this is the end of my 5 minutes of writing – but I need to wrap it up with my plan…

My Plan

I know it sounds a bit cold and calculated but in order to overcome my distraction with everyday happenings, I am going to do these three things:

  1. Create space on my calendar for time with a friend
  2. Create a reminder to give an invite to a friend for a catch up
  3. Write a list of people I’d like to catch up with

Unless I’m this intentional I won’t see change about to happen.

What could you do to overcome the thing that stops you from giving an invite to a friend – old or new?

If I want people in my life I need to step outside of my comfort zone, outside of my every day already happening life – and send out an invite.  That is the first step!

4 Comments

  1. Leigh

    Love the plan and the point about the need to be intentional! Blessings to you! Stopping by from FMF!

    Reply
    • Belinda

      Thanks Leigh. I’m glad I put the extra in.

      Reply
  2. Cheryl

    You’re so right about being intentional. My biggest hurdle is clearing the calendar. There’s always something that needs to be done, and, harder still, there are the things I want to do. That fills up a life quickly. One of the things I can do is invite friends to join me in what I’m doing—especially if it’s a need-to thing. I’ve been thinking about mentoring, and the thought makes my head spin—when would I have time for this? But if I really want to do it, I need to re-evaluate my time and change my perspective. Doing life together is a better model.

    Reply
    • Belinda

      Doing life together is a great place to start with mentoring. It makes it flow from relationship instead of positional.

      Reply

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