This week’s Five Minute Friday’s word is “Should”.  Five Minute Friday is a blog hop where bloggers write for 5 minutes on a given topic.  The idea is no editing – just first drafts.  I like this challenge – it gives me a reason to write a bit more reflective.  This week’s topic is “Should”.  I’d love you to join in with your thoughts on this word in the comments. 

 

You Shouldn’t say Should

I found myself saying to someone – you really shouldn’t say should…. And there is truth behind my words, even if it appears circular logic on the surface.

There are three times we put “should” on ourselves:

  1. When we forget that we are living under grace, not law.
  2. When we bow to peer pressure of some sort – the expectations of others.
  3. When we know what we ‘should’ do but don’t really want to! It is the precursor to most procrastination.

Using the word ‘should’ tends to put pressure on ourselves to perform.

As I reflect on should I or shouldn’t I, I am reminded of Charlotte Mason’s motto – I am, I can, I ought, I will.  I haven’t studied Charlotte Mason in great depth but whenever I hear that motto I am stirred with a sense of purpose and determination.

Does the word 'should' put expectations on you to perform? We really shouldn't say should to anyone.

How much better to set out to do whatever it is that needs to be done with this sense of commitment than the vague idea that someone, somewhere thinks that we should!

I am:  a Child of God

I can:  do all things through Christ who strengthens me

I ought:  to do my duty to God and others

I will: choose the right

The one word that sticks out here is the word ‘ought’ – isn’t ought and should the same meaning? Maybe.  But put in this sequence it has context.  It isn’t people pleasing – it’s God-pleasing.  It isn’t about doing it to be good enough, or get ahead, or be accepted – it is about doing it because it is the right thing in God’s eyes.  In this sequence it relies on the “I can – because of Jesus”  which changes it around as well.

How does this affect me as a woman? Wife? Mum? Homeschooler?  Blogger?  Friend?

For me it brings it all back – regardless of the roles I have, first and foremost I am a Child of God and that affects the choices I make.

[Tweet “I want my actions to be God pleasing not people pleasing, not even self-pleasing.”]

 

Over to you:

How does ‘should’ affect your life?

Further Reading:

Words I Live by: God’s Grace is Sufficient: God’s grace is more than salvation, it is God’s power to live life; His power enabling us to be more like Christ.

Be Content in the Season of Life that is Now: Our life is made up of different seasons. To be content in the season of life that is now will help you find opportunities and accept limitations. (Blog or Podcast)

10 Ways to Glorify God as a Mum: To glorify God is to acknowledge who he is, and give him honour. I want to live my daily life as a woman giving honour to my God.

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