Everyone has bad days.

 

You wake up, and it starts – your day is on a downward spiral where everything goes wrong all at once; not only in your own life, but also in the life of every little person who lives in your house.  Not to mention the computers, the pet dog and the sewage!

 

Yep.  We all know bad days. It doesn’t matter what you have planned for your day it seems as if the world is conspiring against you.

 

The trick to turning these days around is to recognise what is going on.  The quicker and the earlier you are honest with yourself about where this day is heading the better for you and for your family.

 

Recognise the bad day.  In hindsight we are very clear what went on but in the midst of a bad day things are not that clear.   It is helpful to think now, on a good day, what does happen on your bad days.  Think about it and make a plan.  What are your parameters for a good day, when does it cross over to a bad day?  For me the number one bad day boundary is when I find myself yelling at the kids.  Something has to change – NOW!

 

Get relationships right.  Before anything else can happen in your day, people have to be loving towards each other – this includes me!  To get relationships right there may have to be some time out from each other to work on attitudes, to be prepared to forgive and love, or there may be a need for a big group hug!   Take as long as it takes, relationships can’t be rushed and yet they are very important.

 

Spend time with God.  Depending on the ages of your children you may or may not be able to do this privately.  There is great benefit in saying to your kids, “Let’s sit down and read God’s Word together” and/or “Pray together”.   I have often found turning on worship music (not entertainment music, even if Christian, but music that helps you focus on God) to be a great calmer of the heat and confusion of such a day.

 

Ditch the day.  To ditch the day means to re-write priorities for your day.  What are THE most important things to get done today?  First there is the relationships with each other, can everything else wait?  Maybe and maybe not, but it is worth a quick review of your day to really find out.  Believe me, the children are going to have a far better day if you take them to the park, go for a swim or the library than if you persevere with your plans when things are shaky.

 

Be thankful.  Thankfulness is always a great attitude adjuster.

 

When we take that brave step and do something to fix the bad day often the circumstances don’t really change. The kids are still tired, the dishwasher is still leaking, the power is still out, and the fish are still dead!  It is not about the circumstances, it is about our relationships with our children.  We can rescue this day and, by changing our expectations and focus, make a day for the children to remember.

 

I am not talking about fancy parties, and memorable trips to the Theme parks.  I am thinking more about the way that the children remember how their family deals with pressure.  How their family works together and cares for each other in practical ways.  How their family huddles together and comes out smiling.   At the end of the day do you want to be talking about the tears over math workbooks or hearing “I love you” from each of the children?

 

Yes, bad days happen and they take their toll but if we are wise we can take control, and as a result – beat them!

 

 

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Hi! I’m Belinda

About Me

Belinda and her husband, Peter, live in the far north-west of Australia on a small farm. They have four adult children whom they homeschooled from prep-year 12. Over this time Belinda has taught and supported women both face to face and online. Her heart is to encourage families to be intentional, relational and heart focused in all areas of family living. She continues to do this in her new season of life – as her kids leave home one by one leaving her with more time.

Certified Life Coach

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Our Children Watch and Learn from us, on Good days and on Bad days:  Our children learn something – either way.

Relationship Based Activities for Learning:  We can fill our day with these relationship based activities and know that learning is happening because of our family life.

Over to you:

What works for you?  How do you turn a bad day around?

4 Comments

  1. Pat

    Totally with you on being grateful – that’s my #1 “go-to” when I’m having a bad day…
    Thanks so much for sharing this with us at Coffee and Conversation, Belinda -we’ll be featuring it at tomorrow’s party!

    Reply
    • Belinda

      Thanks for the feature Pat. Appreciate it.

      Isn’t it amazing how gratefulness just changes the attitude right around – realigns.

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  2. Kristin Russell

    “When we take that brave step and do something to fix the bad day often the circumstances don’t really change. The kids are still tired, the dishwasher is still leaking, the power is still out, and the fish are still dead! It is not about the circumstances, it is about our relationships with our children. We can rescue this day and, by changing our expectations and focus, make a day for the children to remember.”

    I love this. It is a BRAVE step to fix a bad day, because the enemy of our souls wants nothing more to discourage, depress and create chaos in our lives. We are victorious when we bravely trust Christ to turn our day around… even if just in our hearts!

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  3. Melissa

    Thank you for this timely reminder. I am at SAHM with 5 kids – aged 9 down to almost 1 – and “homeschool” 3 of them so far. We have just gone through a major family event of moving countries, uplifting our children from what they knew, my husband starting his own business, renovations on the house we are to move in to, and living with the in-laws short term. A lot is going on and it is stressful, and I find myself having more and more bad days as I am so exhausted and worn out! I really needed this push to look at my day differently, and not let it get the better of me. I am loving all your posts so far. I need to put my focus on our family, and not just squeezing in the academics so I “feel like they’ve learnt something”!

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