Sailing – for the Homeschool Mum (part 1)
Having just been to the Mum Heart Conference where the theme was “Sailing” – I was intrigued with the theme and had a look for sailing words – not something that I associate with mothering or homeschooling – to see if I could find a heart message for us. The first quote in this series deals with us being intentional – and knowing where we are headed.
A captain who does not know where he wants to sail, there is no wind on earth that will bring him there. Ami Ayalon *
For our homeschooling journey to be successful we need to know where are going and how we are going to get there. We need to be intentional.
One thing I’ve learnt in my parenting journey is that the destination always remains the same – but the path towards that destination may have to twist and turn – it may have to change direction and be flexible – but always with our eyes on our destination.
My goal for my children is that they grow into strong and capable individuals in every area of their life, that they are morally mature young adults who are willing and able to self-govern and live with responsibility and passion. I want my kids to love God and love other people. How we get there – is an adventure!
Do you know what you want for your children? It is most likely different than my statement but then again, we may have tints of the same desires for our family.
To come up with such a goal you can think through a few questions:
- What do you dream of for your children? Think of them as individuals, but also think collectively because big picture wise you want the same for each of your kids.
- Think of all areas of life – whole child, whole person perspective
- What values do you want to live by?
- What’s important to you? What do you want people to know you by (your family’s or your kids’ reputation) I’m not suggesting that we write this to please other people, but by thinking of how we like to be seen, it helps clarify what is important to us.
- What drives you – what is your passion and how do you want to see that in the lives of your kids?
There are several key words in my goal for my kids – capable, individuals, morally mature, self govern and passion, God. And as I focus on those key words I am able to write specific goals – tangible direction to focus on.
- I want my kids to know skills so they are capable in all areas of life – so I will teach skills for all areas of life – relationship skills, life skills, thinking skills, creative skills. All areas of life mean in their spiritual (knowing God), moral, intellectual, social, emotional and physical capacities of life – I want my kids to be mature in all capacities.
- I want my kids to be individuals – so I will learn how each of my children are unique and will find ways to grow each of those unique aspects in each of my children.
- I want my kids to be morally mature – so I teach them a value system, and teach them how to make life decisions based on their values.
- I want my kids to self-govern – so I give them both the skills and the sense of responsibility to govern their life
- I want my kids to live with passion – this is connected to being individuals – but I want them to know what their passions are – and to run with them – so I will encourage them and create contexts so their passions have opportunity to grow.
- I want my kids to know God and love other people – so I show them what this looks like, I talk to them about God and help them grow in their own relationship.
These are the things that are important to me for my kids – and these are the things that shape our days, and ultimately our family direction.
I wasn’t always able to articulate this vision or these goals for my kids – as they’ve grown older, as I as a mum have grown older things have become clearer and stronger in my mind. So please don’t be overwhelmed by the thought processes that are a part of my plan. Borrow my plan for a while until you can start working on tweaks that suit your own passion and personality – because it is your heart, your passions, your style that will ultimately set a clear vision for your kids and your family.
But at least aim for something. One sentence. Be clear on that one sentence. For years my goal was to have morally mature young adults. But as I thought about it I realised I wanted more than that. I realised my kids were more than their moral choices and my thoughts began to expand.
If we don’t know what is important to us, if we don’t know what we are aiming for we will be tossed around by the storms, or left to drift on the currents of fads, opinions and personal doubts.
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*I found this quote at brainyquotes
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