I don’t often write to Dads but I’m going to share some thoughts that I hope, women if you are reading this, you can graciously pass it onto your men folk.
You see, Mother’s Day is happening soon and there will be a few different responses across the country: there’ll be the mothers who are thrilled with their kids show of love and affection, there will be those mums who grieve the loss of their mum, or there will be the mum who is just disappointed because no-one seemed to know that it was Mother’s Day – no fuss made.
I am writing on behalf of that mum. The mum who knows her family loves her, who says it doesn’t matter, but inside a little bit sad, because no-one made a fuss on Mother’s Day.
The reason why I’m writing to Dads is because Dads it is your job to make this day special. No, I’m not talking about making it ‘Wives Day’ but here is an opportunity for you to step in and teach your kids; teach your kids so they can make this day special.
Mother’s Day can be written off as a commercial gimmick, and that may be so, but it is also a very visual reminder for us to honour those that we love.
I hate to burst any Father’s Day bubbles, that your kids just automatically want to shower gifts and vouchers and hugs upon you on that one special day – the reality is Mum has been behind the scenes making sure this happens. Kids are selfish and often unaware of the calendar so they don’t really know Mothers or Father’s day is drawing close. But Mum knows, and she knows that as the kids make the day special for Dad it creates memories and family bonding. She knows it is important for the kids to take the time to say ‘thanks’, to say ‘I love you’.
Fathers – now is the time for you to teach your kids to take notice of their mother as a person. Teach them to give gifts, to say thank you, to give instead of take. Teach them to be creative, to work within their budget, to be real. Your role is to encourage and enable them to do it – not to do it for them. Teach them to think of their Mum as a special lady in their life.
Mother’s day is a great opportunity for Dads to do some great fathering!