Defining the ‘Heart’
The heart is the inner man, the conscience, the soul.
The heart is the mind, the place where we understand, think, reflect and know things
The heart is the where we have inclinations and make resolutions to determine our will.
The heart is where our character springs from.
The heart is the seat of our passions and our emotions.
These descriptions come from the Hebrew word for heart; this word is used so much in the Bible in relation to us growing in maturity. In summarizing all these descriptions, the heart is the place, deep inside each one of us that makes us tick. Do you know what makes your children tick?
In other words for us to change our child’s heart means we need to change their belief system. This is what heart focus parenting is all about. There are many methods that focus on modifying behaviour and though that works short term it won’t enable our children to grow into morally mature people.
In order for our children to take ownership of moral truth, or character based living in their own life, we need to change our children’s thinking from a self-focus to one-another-focus which is a biblical focus. There needs to be a complete turn around. This reminds me of the change that happens in a new Christian’s life and the encouragement that we find in Romans 12:2
Do not be confirmed to this world,
but be transformed by the renewing of your mind,
that you may prove what is that good and acceptable,
and perfect will of God.
We are not to be like the world around us, which focuses on the external things. but our thinking, our beliefs are to be different, new ideals and new attitudes that come from the Word of God. When we change our minds (our hearts, our beliefs) we will know for ourselves what is good and acceptable to God.
Isn’t this what we want for our children – for them to know, for themselves what is good and acceptable to God, and to walk in it? We need to change their thinking, their belief system. This is what heart focus parenting is all about – teaching, training, guiding and encouraging our children in their beliefs, character, choices, emotions and passions.
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Over to you:
What is the most important part of heart focus parenting to you?
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