A few weeks ago I asked my family a question:  Does being a Christian affect how you live your life?  We had an interesting discussion; we had to get rid of some automatic ‘good-Christian’ type of answers in order to get to the bottom of this question.

We can do things as a Christian – do the right thing, teach God’s word, pray, have Christian friends etc but I don’t think that is really where it is at.

Being a Christian is being a follower of Christ, it is being made new, it is having a relationship with Christ and drawing on his “helper” that he gave us – the Holy Spirit.  Do we do life differently now that we are a new creation?  Do we do life differently now because Jesus is in our life?  Do we do things differently because the Holy Spirit dwells within us?

Do we parent differently because we are a Christian?  Not because we should, but because the Holy Spirit is alive in us and working on our heart and responses to life.

[Tweet “We need to let the Holy Spirit guide us so our parenting reflects the love of Jesus.”]

Parenting as a Christian

We can list all the things a good Christian parent should do – but that is just living by a set of rules that someone has drawn up.  Being a Christian, a follower of Christ, a new creation, isn’t about following such a list.  Being a Christian is about letting the Holy Spirit change us to be more like Jesus.

Read that sentence again – it is about letting the Holy Spirit change us to be more like Jesus.  Change us – not our kids, not our spouse, not our neighbour, or our kids friends – but us.

  • As I’m confronted with my child’s anger – do I respond as one who loves Jesus?
  • As I’m confronted with my families lack of support – do I respond as one who loves Jesus?
  • As I’m confronted with hard things in family life – do I respond as one who loves Jesus?

How would Jesus have me respond in these situations – how do I respond as a wife, mother, sister, friend to the frustrating, annoying, disappointing, sad things going on around me?

1–By relying on Jesus love for me, and for others I can show His love – I don’t have to feel love, I have to act with love – sincerely. This can only happen as we soak in Jesus’ love, as we live in prayer, as we ask and ask and ask for His love to fill our hearts.  This is not a human love, it is a love that comes from loving Jesus.  He loved us while we were still sinners, that is we were still rejecting us and he loved us.  That is the love we are to have for others.

2–By relying on the Holy Spirit to strengthen me. The oft quotes scripture from Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.  Paul is talking about being content with much or with little.  The inference is – whatever circumstance God has you in we can learn contentment, and Christ will strengthen us.

3–By resting in Christ’s peace – a peace that is beyond our understanding – the most odd place to find peace, to the human eye, is in the midst of a storm – it is beyond our understanding. But that is the type of peace that we can have when we walk hand in hand with Jesus.

Being a Christian parent isn’t about all the things that we do, it is about how we do these things – personally, us, me.  Do we do the right thing with a grumpy heart?  An impatient voice?  Or resentful actions? This of course isn’t a response that honours and glorifies our Lord Jesus.

This week as we are challenged with the various issues and people in our family, let us rely on Jesus, let’s ask for his love for our family, and for his peace and joy to overflow in our heart.  When we are filled with his Spirit, the fruit of that will overflow into every relationship we have.

Over to you:

How have you found Jesus changing your parenting?

1 Comment

  1. Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom

    Beautiful! Being Christian definitely impacts how I parent and I pray I become more Christ-like in all my interactions with my children and all I do with and for them.

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

    Reply

Let me know your thoughts...

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Do you need help in your Family?

Hi! I’m Belinda

About Me

Belinda and her husband, Peter, live in the far north-west of Australia on a small farm. They have four adult children whom they homeschooled from prep-year 12. Over this time Belinda has taught and supported women both face to face and online. Her heart is to encourage families to be intentional, relational and heart focused in all areas of family living. She continues to do this in her new season of life – as her kids leave home one by one leaving her with more time.

Certified Life Coach
Individual Education Planning Worksheets - brainstorming every area of your child's life.

Get your Planning Worksheets

I will email you the download link so you can start looking at all the different spheres of your child's life before you make any curriculum choices. 

The download link is on it's way.

An Alternative to Chocolate

An Alternative to Chocolate

Not that I have anything against chocolate - but these jelly beans can help your kids share the message of Jesus, his love, death and resurrection at Easter time.  

The download link is on it's way.

Parent Guide: How to make your Family Bible Study Really Work

Family Bible Study is Tricky with all the Different Ages

 

But there is a way to make this a rich learning and bonding family time.  This Guide includes tips, planning worksheet, and discussion prompts.  

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download yourCharacter Certificates

Though true character is driven by internal motivation, our children will appreciate when we see that they are growing in character.

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download your Character Certificates

Though true character is driven by internal motivation, our children will appreciate when we see that they are growing in character.

The download link is on it's way.

Download your Cheat Sheet

 

A quick reference to help you discern between a heart attitude and a lack of skill for when your child loses it!

Thanks for being here! Your download link is on its way.

Three things for parents to pray for in the Moment.

Make God your First Response

Print out this parenting reminder to call out to God in the middle of the moment.

I'm excited to share this download with you. Watch your inbox.

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

You will receive an email shortly with the details. Watch your inbox.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Download Parenting Poster

Download Parenting Poster

Learn to respond to your child in a way that changes their heart.

 

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Download Parenting Poster

Download Parenting Poster

 

Learn to respond to your child in a way that changes their heart.

 

I will email you the download link.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Our children hear different words when we react to when we respond. Do your children hear blah blah blah when you correct them? Includes a parenting poster.

Download Parenting Poster

 

When we Respond instead of React we find a way to deal with the heart not just behaviour.

 

I will email you the download link.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Download Character Lesson Guide

You will receive an email shortly with the details. Watch your inbox.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

When family relationships get tense - look for the niggles.

Heart Focused Parenting Resource for the Intentional Parent

 

Your download will arrive in your inbox shortly. 

Print it out and use to teach the hearts of your kids.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Hearts: Heart focus homeschool

Email Course

Daily emails  (6 days) to help you walk towards being a heart focused homeschool family!

You have joined the email course. Watch your email inbox!

Find ways to Re-engage your Student

Download this checklist and stir your child's curiosity

Watch your Inbox - the Checklist is on it's way!

Stay Heart Focused

 

When you parent the heart, the tone of your family will change. 


Weekly Heart Boost emails with practical and encouraging ideas to be heart focused in all areas of family life.

Thank you for inviting me to be a part of your family journey. I'll be in touch.

FREE Parenting Worksheet

This worksheet will help you move from addressing behaviour to really parenting the heart, one issue at a time.

 

 

You have Successfully Subscribed!

Parenting Support Library

Join now for extra and regular heart focus family living support.
Weekly emails and bonus content straight to your email inbox.

 

 

You have Successfully Subscribed!

Become a Better Parent

Personal growth starts with an honest assessment

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Give Effective Consequences

Think before you React

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

 

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

One Another Verses

Be Intentional in the Teen Years

Use this Cheat Sheet to remind you of how you can love your teen.

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Devotion Response Kit cover

Download your Devotion Response Kit

5 prompts to encourage the heart of your child as they learn to respond to God's Word

Thanks for being here! Your download link is on it's way.

Prepare a Heart focused Christmas

 

Free email course

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download your copy

Download your copy

Blending Life and Lessons - and start your journey of changing your thinking about education.

Thanks for being here! Your download link is on it's way.

Download: One Another Verses pdf

Download: One Another Verses pdf

Download this list of One Another verses and teach your children how to love others.

Thanks for being here! Your download link is on it's way.

Raising Kids with Character

ATTEND LIVE : FREE PARENTING WORKSHOP

A bonus for Heart Booster readers:  Learn how to teach character to your kids so that they can live their lives making values-based choices.

 

Live Session:  5th May 2021, 6.30pm AWST

Replay available until 16th May 2021

 

I'm so excited about this workshop - thanks for joining me!

Raising Kids with Character

REPLAY OPTION : FREE PARENTING WORKSHOP

A bonus for Heart Booster readers:  Learn how to teach character to your kids so that they can live their lives making values-based choices.

 

Replay available from 6th May until 16th May 2021

 

I'm so excited about this workshop - thanks for joining me!

Raising Kids with Character

WAITLIST

 

The Raising Kids with Character parenting workshop will be offered again this year - details yet to be confirmed.  Join the waitlist so you don't miss out. 

I will keep in you in the loop as soon as decisions have been made!

Join Heart Boost and gain access to de•vot•ed free for 1 month

 

Connecting everyday living with the Word of God

Thanks for being here! Your download link is on it's way.

Bonus Reading list

 

Sharing my Homeschool Belief File

Knowing what you believe and why about education and homeschooling helps you make good decisions.

Thanks for being here! Your download link is on it's way.

%d bloggers like this: