One of the things that we need to be constantly aware of is our baby growing up. This may be obvious but if we pause and think about it, do our actions, does our parenting reflect this idea?
- Are our expectations changing with our growing child?
- Is our daily routine changing?
- The child’s toys and/or activities?
- The child’s responses to people and situations?
If they are doing the same thing they’ve done for a while we may need to look at why?
First thing to be sure of is that there are no developmental or physical issues. Your medical practioners can tell you this. I’m talking though when there is no reason for delays other than the fact that you haven’t grown up with your baby – you may well be holding them back.
We change their clothes, or their nappy size whenever they no longer fit. Our babies are growing in other areas too: emotional, intellectually, and with their skills. They can focus longer, they can handle smaller things with their fingers, they can speak words, they can handle separation, they can ride a push bike by themselves, they can do things that they never used to be able to do.
This week we gave Toddler a new box of toys. I wasn’t really thinking, I just needed to distract her. She grabbed a plastic ‘jar’ and a baby spoon and started to feed herself and us as well. We all stood around her, amazed – she’d never done this before. She was role playing. It dawned on me that this was age appropriate play, she just needed the tools. Her toybox needs a revamp.
Does your day, your routine, your activities, reflect the things that your Toddler needs today – or are they the same things that they were needing 3 months ago? Time for a growth check!
When a toddler’s day does not grow with them, they will quickly become disinterested in life, loosing that spark that keeps us on our toes! Even the most placid of toddlers needs to be stimulated, challenged and encouraged to grow.
This is what parenting is all about – helping our children to grow. We can become complacent, comfortable in what they are doing now – especially if it works for us. But that is not the point! We need to help our child grow in every area of their life – it will mean change, it will mean effort on our behalf, but we need to remember that we are laying the foundations for all future learning – if they become bored with life, it is going to be harder and harder to reignite that spark the older they get.
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