The heart is the inner place
where we hold beliefs
and process our choices.
Change how you Respond
If we are to change how we respond (or react) to our strong willed child we need to be reminded regularly of what it is we are aiming for. Changing our behaviour (our parenting behaviour) is like changing any habit – we need to practice, practice, practice.
Whenever we are trying to develop a new habit in our family I tend to put ‘reminder’ posters around the house. These are gentle reminders of the things in my heart. And in this case, to shift my reactions when I’m dealing with the strong willed child. I plan to have one on my fridge and one on my bedroom door (so I remind myself as I walk out the room).
Don’t let them Push your Buttons
We tend to justifiy our reactions when it comes to the strong willed child – they push our buttons. But just as we tell our children, you are in charge of you. You can’t change how someone else acts, but you can change how you respond.
And this is so true for parents.
Regardless of how my child is acting, I need to show love and grace. It’s hard. They truly do push our buttons, but we can learn to respond a different way.