There are times in our homeschooling journey where mum get’s tired, not just the tired from a need of sleep but a bone-weary, lost my joy weary. This happens in every profession, every career.  But the answer isn’t always about changing our job – as a homeschool mum that was my very last, probably not even considered option.  But I don’t want to be tired – I want to be motivated and enthused about learning with my kids.  Check out the video where I share two suggestions for when a homeschool mum gets tired.

If you skipped the video then here’s a quick summary:  When a homeschool mum gets tired she needs to take responsibility and make changes.  I share two suggestions:

  1. Take a season of de-schooling: a time where you focus on being a family, reconnect with each other, discover your passions and develop your interests.
  2. Establish the habits of obedience, responsibility and focus/self-control.

Also read: If you are Tired, are you prepared to make Changes?

Further Suggestions for for when Mum is Tired {of homeschooling}

 Lighten the Load

Another suggestion is to pare back and only do that which is necessary.  I have found this works when my children have been independent learners, or mostly independent.

The trick with taking this option is ‘what is necessary’.  To be honest, doing what we are doing now, living the pace that is exhausting us, is probably happening because we are doing the things we deem as necessary.  But is it?

If there is stress in your life – either physical, emotional or social then you need to cut back and reassess.  Reassess what is truly necessary.

For me, and I share this as a starting place for you, for me the absolutely necessary things for my children, when I’ve been tired, have been Bible, Relationship building, Responsibilities, Creativity and 1 skill.   These things looked different at different times, depending on the ages and abilities of my kids.  But here is a rough outline:

–Bible: Family devotions or Bible study, however you do it, I think it is important to maintain a family habit of reading God’s word, prayer, and learning how to apply it to our lives.  During Bible time the kids would talk and draw/write in a journal.  This covered language arts for a season.

–Relationship building activities: I would prioritise doing things together as a family.  This might be a trip to the library, cooking a meal for someone, or playing board games.

–Responsibilities: If our children are old enough to do chores (and a preschooler is old enough) then I see this as a priority to ensure that they are helping around the house.

–Focus time: This would depend on the age and mix of my children but we would spend up to 1 hour a day doing something at the table (aka Table Time).  This is where the children had one skill that we worked on – usually independently (because at this stage I needed rest).

  1. For preschoolers it could be playdough, stamping, or lego
  2. For early readers it could be drawing, lego, typing, or math drill on the computer
  3. For independent learners it could be anything they wanted to do. As they grew older they often chose a particular project to complete during this time and worked on it every day.
  4. Sometimes Table time would be a board game – but only if they could play it harmoniously

–Productive time: this was generally the afternoon when they worked on individual hobbies and interests – the goal was that they would focus on a particular creative project for a set period of time.

 

Take a Break from Teaching

Taking a break from teaching may cut across some of our ideals – but we must come back to the idea that we are first a mum, and then a homeschool mum.  And if homeschooling is exhausting us so much, we have to make some other choices.  Some choices we may need to make will be long term ones, and others may only be for a season.  Two ways to take a break from teaching (and yet stay homeschooling)

  1. Find units of study, or resources that your children can use independently. This works better in the pre-teen years or older students who are able to be responsible for their learning.
  2. Find someone else to teach – this could be a homeschool tutor, or an online or DVD tutor
  3. Move to project based learning. Give your child a project for them to complete – depending on the age and ability of your child, and the project you choose, you may have to supervise, but otherwise they can learn, trial and error style as their project comes together.

I remember being a little burnt out over our homeschooling – my oldest was a gifted student and my youngest was struggling with learning difficulties.  And yet I persisted with my ideal of all learning together.  I had the opportunity to speak to Sally Clarkson, an older and wiser mum with homeschooling experience and she said: Let him go.  Let go of your ideals and let him study independently.  Following her advice gave me such freedom in our learning times.  Each of my children were better served by me letting go of an ideal and letting Josh learn independently.

 

4 Ways to help a Tired Homeschool Mum

So four ideas to help the homeschool mum find balance and time to rest when she is bone tired-weary and it is affecting the joy of homeschooling:

  1. Have a season of de-schooling
  2. Establish the habits of obedience, responsibility and focus
  3. Lighten the load
  4. Take a break from teaching

Which one resonates with you?  As I said in the video – we don’t want to be victims or martyrs to our circumstances.  We have the responsibility to look after our self.  It is our choice – we must find a way for it to happen.

 

Further Reading

Click the image to take you to the blog post

Taking a Mummy-break is stewardship of your body – you need rest and time to refresh. It is our personal responsibility to make it happen.

Everyday family life creates learning experiences that teach relationship skills, life skills, character and academic learning.

To be a heart focused homeschool we have to be careful about the choices we make.

When we feel like homeschooling isn’t working we need to be intentional and look for solutions.

1 Comment

  1. Alistair

    I really enjoyed listening to your video on this topic. Its not so much that im tired of homeschooling, but rather im tired of my kids not doing what ive asked them to do. And me not ever getting to do the things i enjoy doing. My kids are 10 and nearly 8. I think its reasonable to expect them to get dressed, including hair teeth and shoes, have breakfast, and make beds without me asking them to do each step. And i realise that their inabilty to do that has a lot to do with me. This morning i just had an angry meltdown. And I’m not happy about how that might affect my kids. It’s not a positive way to start the day.
    But with all the pressures of getting through the work ive set for the term/year, the fact that we’ve already taken time out this term for family reasons, can i really take time out to work on discipline? Neither of them have learning issues, but already i have scaled back their workload to make allowances for all the other stuff of life. We only do school 4 days a week. What im trying to say, is i feel we dont do one heck of a lot, and still i dont feel i can just concentrate on obedience and scale back the workload even more.
    I really think all that you have suggested would be very beneficial. What im finding difficult is how to apply it practically to our life. Thanks so much for your blog. I often come here for encouragement and help. Perhaps right now i just needed to vent, and you’ve helped me to do that. I actually watched the video a few weeks ago and read through the blog as well. And its stuck in my mind. I really do want to live life with my kids before they go away all grown up and start thier own journeys. But it a challenge for us in so many ways. Thanks for the listening ear. God bless. 😊

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