This week’s Five Minute Friday’s word is “mom” or for me here in Australia “mother”.  Five Minute Friday is a blog hop where bloggers write for 5 minutes on a given topic.  The idea is no editing – just first drafts.  I like this challenge – it gives me a reason to write a bit more reflective. I’d love you to join in with your thoughts on this word in the comments. 

My mum is my friend, my counselor and my number one fan.  She lives on one side of Australia and I live on the other but we talk, text and email – about all kinds of things.  But her encouragements to me when I’m struggling with something has been a steady influence in my life.  I don’t know if I was particularly aware of it before I became a mother myself, I am sure it was there, but her advice has helped me get through tough times, and make choices that I probably wouldn’t have without her!

1–See the big picture

There are two phrases that mum said so often to me, especially when my kids were little:

It won’t last forever: The example that sticks in my head was to do with toilet training.  I remember her saying – “It will happen – he won’t be a 40 year old man still in nappies – it will happen.”

Remember why you made that decision – Another toddler example: I was kicking myself one day that Josh was on the bottle for such a long time.  Mum’s encouragement was to remember why that happened.  When I remembered why, when I remembered the circumstances around us at that time it put my actions, and his bottle, into context.  It wasn’t that I was a ‘bad’ mother, there was stuff going on more important than weaning him from a bottle

2–Find a solution

Whenever I call mum with a problem she says to me, “What is one thing you could change that would make the biggest difference”  This wisdom has got me unstuck many times, it is amazing how one little tweak can change a whole outlook.

3–Let it go

Before this was a song Mum would remind me to let it go – to forgive – to refocus – to guard my heart from festering.  Wise advice indeed!

These three pieces of advice are deeply ingrained in me now and I hope that over the years I have passed this wisdom onto my kids as they talk to me about the stuff going on in their life.  See the big picture.  Find a solution.  Let it go!

Over to you: What words of wisdom has your mother, or older woman, given you that you want to pass onto your kids?

Further Reading:

It’s Mother’s Day Soon:  A Note to Dad  Mother’s Day is an opportunity for Dad to teach their kids to honour their mother.

You can make your Time Out Happen:  Mums can make their time out happen – we just have to learn how.

My Career as a Mum: My career has been that of a mum – a professional mum! I am as passionate about success, and committed to learning more about my job as any woman.

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These 3 pieces of advice my mother has consistently said to me has shaped who I am. I hope I can pass this onto my kids.

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