The kids see you - you can't hide

Five Minute Friday: Hide

Five Minute Friday is a weekly writing challenge and linkup, where you write for 5 minutes on a designated word.   Every so often,  when I find myself with some writing time between Friday and Sunday,  I plan to take this challenge.  When I have done this I find that my 5 mintues of writing tends to reflect something that is going on in my life or my general reflections.  So I share these short posts with this in mind – this is simply my immediate thoughts when I read this word today.

This week’s Five Minute Friday prompt is: Hide

 

I look at my child and am horrified at what she just did – and then it hit me – she was just copying me!  You can’t hide from your kids – they see you, they know you, and – they will copy you.

 

They see the choices you make

The way you react

The habits you form

And the things you let slide

 

They see the things that are important to you

They see the things that make you laugh and cry

They see the things that you prioritise, regardless of what you say

They see your strengths and your weaknesses

 

And they copy you!!

 

This can be cute – when the little one stands with hands supporting their back, just like their pregnant mum.

 

It can be embarrassing – when the six year old slams the door and mutters when things don’t go their way.

 

It can be confronting – when the teen spends time on the phone.

 

It is a wake up call when you suddenly realise they are copying you – you can’t hide – they know you, they’ve watched you – they’ve learnt from you.  And suddenly you don’t like what you see.

 

A song that always gets me – catches me in my heart – is Cat’s in the Cradle – its catch cry – “I’m gonna be like you,  Dad” – oh the tears when you see that yes, they did grow up just like Dad.

 

We can’t hide from our kids – they are our family, they live with us – they see it all.  We can try and hide, and to be honest, the kids just see that as hypocrisy, or we can be motivated to change and grow ourselves and be worthy of the trust they put in us by making us their role model.

 

I’ve often been challenged about teaching my kids a particular life skill that I myself lack – maybe orderliness or thriftiness or self-control.  I can ignore the need to teach them these things or I can grab the learning opportunity with both hands, and grow myself, and encourage my kids to join me as we practice these good choices together.  By being honest about my weaknesses I teach my kids that learning and growing is a life time thing – and there is no weakness in not being perfect; rather there is weakness in trying to hide it!

 

Read more thoughts on Hide over at 5 Minute Friday

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