When we visit we build relationships.

 

Five Minute Friday is a weekly writing challenge and linkup, where you write for 5 minutes on a designated word.   Every so often, I find myself with some writing time on Friday (or Saturday) and plan to take this challenge.  When I have done this I find that my 5 minutes of writing tends to reflect something that is going on in my life or my general reflections.  So I share these short posts with this in mind – this is simply my immediate thoughts when I read this word today.

 

This week’s Five Minute Friday prompt is: Visit

 

To visit someone is to spend time with them – whether it was planned or impromptu.  To visit means to give time to someone, and I believe a visit goes best when you give of yourself as well.

In this harried life that we all get caught up in visiting can be left in the whirlwind of getting things done – and we are worse off for that.  We are social beings and we need friends, but more significantly, we also need to give.  Being a friend is a two way thing, having a relationship (regardless of how shallow or deep, new or old) is a two way thing.  We need to give and take – and we need to visit.

To spend time to visit – either a stranger who needs your love and care, or an old friend where there’s mutual affection and giving – we need to have the right heart.

  • We need to prioritise people over work – our work will never all be done, people come and go, opportunities to connect come and go – we need to find a balance between relationships and work.
  • When we visit we need to be prepared to be real – to show the real us, the hurting us, the tired us, the happy us, the doing okay us.
  • We have to be prepared to listen as much as we talk.
  • We need to be so others focused that we see their need, more than we acknowledge our own, and then we need to be brave enough to meet that need; whether it is a hug, a cuppa, or a help with a project.

We should go home from a visit, knowing some aspect of their life and our life is stronger. When we put off visiting, we put off building relationships.  This is true with our relationships with people and it is true of our relationship with God.

We need to set aside time and visit – visiting is investing in relationships.

…. And that is the end of my 5 minutes

 

As I wrote this I was thinking of four groups of people

  1. The people I already know, but don’t know well – do I make time (we have to make it happen) to reach out to more people than my close friends
  2. My children – yes, I need to visit with my children, not necessarily over a cuppa, but to spend time with them, getting to know their heart, to encourage them, and to be encouraged by them.
  3. Peter – to visit with my husband, means to sit and chat my day, to share dreams, to talk about significant and insignificant things. I visit with my girlfriends – can I visit with my husband?
  4. God doesn’t have ‘needs’ that are met by my visit, but He has a deep desire to spend time with me and for me to know him.  Regular visits throughout the day consolidate our relationship.

 

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