The end of the year is a good opportunity to celebrate individual success and growth in our kids – to give recognition to each of our kids for their journey.

A friend shared this on Facebook this morning and I thought it worthwhile to read.  Neither of us can find the author so if you do come across a name, please do pass it on. This piece is written for school kids – for those kids who didn’t get an award or commendation.  But there is something in this for homeschoolers too.

We need to be seeing the growth and achievements our kids make – in their whole life, in their whole person.  This is at the heart of this little poem.

One of the most important lessons my kids have learnt is that there are multiple intelligences – people are smart in different ways.  Tests are geared towards the academically strong, but not everyone is wired that way.  As parents we need to recognise, praise and encourage our kids in their strengths, and in the areas of weakness where they have grown.

 

Many years ago I realised that I intentionally planned things to work on with my kids – it may have been a life skill, or an attitude or a behaviour (as well as academic lessons with homeschooling) – and we progressively worked through my plans but I never stopped to recognise that they had grown.  This morning I was reminded to get back into being as intentional about seeing growth as I am in seeing issues.

So I share this poem – this note written to children everywhere – and really, it is a prod to us parents to truly see our kids.

“For all the children around Australia who did not receive a special award; commendation; trophy or special book prize in achievement assemblies and ceremonies these past weeks….

I SEE YOU

It’s a time of badges, certificates, medals, trophies, recognition,

awards, prizes and ‘seeing’ of high achievement.

I love seeing the kids that shine at this time of year – a big high heartfelt round of applause
to you.

You so deserve it for the effort you have put in.
But this message is for the kids that didn’t get called up for any of the above…

I SEE YOU

To the child that conquered their fear of heights,

or sleeping in the dark,

or riding without training wheels

or sleeping out for the night for the first time this year,

I SEE YOU

To the child that managed to resolve more conflict than they started this year,

to the child that learnt to say the impossible; “I’m sorry”,

and to the child that walked away from the fighting instead of getting involved,

I SEE YOU

To the child for whom school is a huge struggle, you get up every day and you go,

I SEE YOU

To the child that battled all year with the maths, or reading,

Or concentration or speaking out in class, or learning their words, but persevered anyway,

I SEE YOU

To the child that found the kindness in their heart reach out in anyway to another person

or to an animal in need or in pain,

I SEE YOU

To the child that learnt to give and to share for the first time this year and even found joy in these, I SEE YOU

To the child that battles to make friends and to be social,

you made new friends this year and for that,

I SEE YOU

To the child who wanted so much to please,

but was just out of sight of an adult who perhaps was too busy or too distracted,

I SEE YOU

To the child who lost a friend or a loved one this year, but carried on everyday bravely even though their heart ached,

I SEE YOU

To the brave parents that try every day to do the best for their kids,

I SEE YOU.

May you and your children revel in small but significant victories that you have both experienced this year, as I will with my beautiful children.

For every year there is progress and growth, we don’t need a podium or handshake or a hall of applause to be seen.
I SEE YOU..”

 ~ author unknown (found on Facebook)

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