Do you have goals for your children? Goals for

  • their relationship with God
  • their relationship with you
  • their relationship with their siblings
  • their character maturity (which reflects on their behaviour)
  • the development of their gifts and talents
  • their life skills and academic progress

To have a goal means you have a purpose, an objective, an intention, and then you work towards that purpose. Since goals can be short term or long term we need to be clear about what we set in front of ourselves.

I am sure you are very familiar with the acronym SMART for defining different aspects of a good goal.

S.M.A.R.T. – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time Based.

Specific means narrow in focus, clear in what you mean to achieve. Asking questions such as What, Why and How are a good start.

Measurable means defined in small increments, so you can see progress along the way. You need to know what will mean progress, what will mean success to you in this area.

Achievable means do-able. You need to take all aspects of your life into account and ensure that there is a time and place for you to work on your smart goal. It needs to be not too small, not too big but just right for you to achieve.

Relevant means it is connected to your purpose – you are not copying someone else. This plan will benefit your life in a way that is important to you. Relevant also means that it is appropriate for the now. We need to be honest with where we are at, or where our children are at before we set ourselves on a course of action.

Time-based means it has a beginning and an end.

But there’s a few more steps:

For goal setting to be truly successful we need to add two other aspects. Review and Action.

Review is when we regularly check our goals; when we look back at what we have achieved and assess what happened (or didn’t) and why. Review sets us up for the next stage, for tweaking our plans if necessary and for going forward from where we are at.

Action is simply getting in and doing it! Goals all look good on paper but unless we live them out our lives will remain the same.

When we have goals in our mind, even better when they are recorded, we are able to be proactive in the training of our children. The alternative is to just grasp at this misbehaviour and then this one and then this one, this makes us reactive parents. Another benefit is if we can clearly define what we want for our children, it is easier to pass this onto them; for us to be able to talk about it, and for them to begin to take hold of that ideal, and work on their own hearts, their own lives, ultimately taking responsibility for that goal in their own life.

0 Comments

Any thoughts?

Throughout the week I share with other blogs – check out my Link ups and Party page

ADD MEDIA

Be Intentional

 Every week I'll email an encouragement to stay intentional and relational in all your family life.  But for now, download your set of reminder posters - posters which I've used over the years to remind me to keep my eyes and heart on what is important.

Thank you for joining me. You have successfully subscribed and will receive an email from me shortly. (You never know which folder emails will land in so keep an eye out for my "Thank you" email.) Stay in touch... Belinda - Live life with your Kids!

Download your worksheet and start working on your family vision statement.

Get the Family Vision Worksheet

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Individual Education Planning Worksheets - brainstorming every area of your child's life.

Get your Planning Worksheets

I will email you the download link so you can start looking at all the different spheres of your child's life before you make any curriculum choices. 

The download link is on it's way.

Get a copy of the Jelly Bean Story

I will email you a download link.  You can print and share this story with your kids and their friends.

The download link is on it's way.

This parent guide helps parents plan family bible study and use discussion techniques to teach the important lessons.

Bible study Guide for Parents

Guide includes tips, planning worksheet, and discussion prompts. I will email you a download link.  

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Obedience looks a bit different as our kids grow older. Download this parent/teen discussion guide to understand this issue of obedience in teen years.

Download your Free Discussion Guide

Don't assume your kids are rebelling - instead talk to them about what Obedience looks like now they are older.  I will email you a download link.  

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download yourCharacter Certificates

Though true character is driven by internal motivation, our children will appreciate when we see that they are growing in character.

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download your Character Certificates

Though true character is driven by internal motivation, our children will appreciate when we see that they are growing in character.

The download link is on it's way.

Over 20 different verbal expressions divided into heart or self control to help parents discern these behaviours.

Download your Cheat Sheet

I will send you the link to download this cheat sheet that will help you discern between a heart attitude and a lack of skill.

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

You will receive an email shortly with the details. Watch your inbox.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Download Parenting Poster

Download Parenting Poster

Learn to respond to your child in a way that changes their heart.

 

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Download Parenting Poster

Download Parenting Poster

 

Learn to respond to your child in a way that changes their heart.

 

I will email you the download link.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Our children hear different words when we react to when we respond. Do your children hear blah blah blah when you correct them? Includes a parenting poster.

Download Parenting Poster

 

When we Respond instead of React we find a way to deal with the heart not just behaviour.

 

I will email you the download link.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Free email course -

6 days straight to your inbox!

 

 

Plan a Christmas that touches the heart of your family.

Thank you for being here - you will receive an email shortly.

Pin It on Pinterest