Character is the quality of our response to people and circumstances. Here is a list of 10 choice responses to the people and situations a mother finds herself in.
- Dependent (on God) – to fully rely on and to trust God for all my needs – emotional, physical, intellectual, social, spiritual. We cannot afford to trust in our selves – but God can bring peace, strength and wisdom to all that we do.
- Determination – purposing to accomplish right goals at the right time, regardless of the opposition*. Opposition could come from my tiredness, my kids’ resistance, other people’s opinions, circumstances etc. If we know we are doing the right thing we need to keep on doing it!
- Enthusiasm – Expressing joy in each task as I give it my best effort*. I carry the atmosphere of the home in my attitude. Mummy ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!! My enthusiasm is contagious – whether we are looking at math, understanding the weather, doing chores, or going camping!
- Discernment – Understanding the deeper reasons why things happen* (or why things need to happen). We need to study our children, know their heart, and make our decisions based on what will best help our children grow.
- Creativity – Approaching a need, a task, or an idea from a new perspective*. We need to have an open mind to new approaches, new material, and new ideas. We need to face the challenges with creativity finding solutions that will work for our individual kids and our unique family.
- Flexibility – Willingness to change plans or ideas*. We need to always bend with the circumstances that come our way, and yet never let go of the principles that we are building on. Practices can change; principles (if based on God’s truth) are true regardless of circumstances.
- Gentleness – Showing consideration and personal concern for others*. I need to be driven, in all I do, out of a concern for my kids – this will keep my heart in a gentle place.
- Orderliness – arranging myself and my surroundings to achieve greater efficiency*. We need to bring order into how we spend our time and how we arrange our possessions so that we can be efficient with the task ahead of us – raising our children. Time, possessions and energy are resources God has given us to serve his purposes. If chaos reigns we are unproductive and quickly exhausted.
- Self-control – Rejecting wrong desires and doing what is right*. Sometimes we won’t feel like doing anything with our children, we won’t feel like cleaning house or making those phone calls, but we need to have the self-control to act on what is right, not our feelings.
- Availability – Making my own schedule and priorities secondary to the needs of others. Though we do need to look after ourselves, there are times that we need to step up and put aside the things we were doing, or wished we were doing, to help our children. We need to be available physically, emotionally and mentally.
*Character First definitions