In this 31 days series I’m looking at ways that I can make way for family life; choices that can simplify my lifestyle, making way for to me to live life with my kids! All posts can be found here.

Guard your Heart

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) Our heart is what we believe, our character, our passions, our emotions – these things will determine the course of your life.  And I don’t think it a stretch to say that your heart, as a mother (or father) will also determine the course of your family life.

We need to guard against:

  • Comparing – In this day and age of so much information it is easy to compare ourselves against someone else, be in real life or online.  We need to guard against this as it is unproductive but even worse it is saying to God I’m not happy with how you made me, I want to be like her.  Instead we need to find contentment – contentment in God, in his sovereignty.  This is the attitude Paul had – regardless of his circumstances he was content – not because he liked being shipwrecked, but because he was content in God.  God was enough.
  • False Expectations – We must be realistic about our life, about the season in life that we are currently in.  I have freedoms in my life because my children are older – I do things now that I couldn’t do before.  When we are realistic we can set goals, or expectations, knowing that working towards those things will bring life, not stress, condemnation, or pressure because it is realistic for our family, at this time, to be working on such things.  Without thinking this through we grab hold of someone else’s life instead of making ours count.
  • Fear – When we look at our weaknesses and the tasks ahead of us it is easy to fear.  I am reminded of Peter who stepped out of the boat, he started to do something unexpected, unusual and amazing…. But then he took his eyes off Jesus, fear entered his heart and he sunk!  How true that is for us.  We have nothing to fear – our weaknesses, our quirks, our mistakes – Jesus loves us regardless, nothing will change that!  He has also sent his Spirit to guide, teach, encourage us so that we can go forth and do the things that God the Father asks of us.

Guarding our heart isn’t just about keeping stuff out but we also need to do all we can to keep godly qualities in.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,

kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

gentleness and self-control

Galatians 5:22-23

Walking with Jesus is the best protection we have for our heart.  Read God’s word.  Get to know Jesus.  Talk to him.  Cry with him.  Sit quietly with Him. Walk day by day with Him beside you.

It is as the word of God changes what we believe about our self, our family, our home, how we spend our time, that we will be able to step out and walk in the joy that family life has to offer!

Enjoy the world where God has placed you.

 

Note:  This is the conclusion of 31 days of Living a Family Life.  If you haven’t read the whole series you can catch up here.

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