In this 31 days series I’m looking at ways that I can make way for family life; choices that can simplify my lifestyle, making way for to me to live life with my kids! All posts can be found here.

Teach your Children to Serve

It’s not all about Me!  This is a key heart understanding that Family needs to understand.  Family life is about other-ness.  Each member of the family needs to have this truth at the core of their belief system.  Unfortunately this is not the message we receive from the media and society in general who tend to support the idea that we look after myself first and then others.  God’s way is different.  Jesus calls us to be servants, to be last, to consider others.

Family life gives us the opportunity to practice considering one another:

  • Household chores teach our children responsibility but they also teach them how to serve the family, to help out and to see needs.  Though we have a roster for chores I also encourage our children to help each other – this is a voluntary thing, so it really does reflect the heart of service.  When someone asks for help though I expect family members to be willing and available in any way that they can.
  • The family meal table offers plenty of scope for teaching service:  serving food to the table, passing dishes around before we dig in ourselves, looking out for who wants seconds, sharing the conversation – listening and talking.
  • Hospitality in the home gives our kids an opportunity to learn to serve by helping to get the home ready, and then by learning the skills of being a host:  serving drinks and nibbles, and looking after any needs.  The more our children practice these aspects of service, the quicker they become second nature.
  • Helping others in need such as providing food, child care and/or cleaning is an aspect of serving others.  I want my kids to see this as normal life – we need to be prepared to go without things ourselves in order to help others.
  • Serve at Church –  Our church has always had a roster:  cleaning, serving morning tea, sound desk, music, reading Scriptures and praying, and giving a kids talk.  When our kids were young they would work alongside of us, now as older teens they are on the roster of their own volition.
  • Volunteer work in the community –this starts with our kids seeing us involved in the community and having them work alongside of us as much as possible.  Our kids have helped prepare for parenting classes and mums’ support groups, community seminars and kids clubs, and community Christmas carols.  As they grow older they take on more responsibility and now the older kids are involved in their own community volunteer projects.

I don’t list these things to brag but rather to give you ideas of how family life opens up opportunities to serve and to learn about serving.

We don’t want to serve just for the sake of serving, being busy or being seen to do the noble thing!  That will just lead to exhaustion.  We serve others because we love them – we love them because Christ loves them.

Enjoy the world where God has placed you.

 

I’m joining many other bloggers with The Nesters challenge to blog on one topic for 31 days in October.   I hope you will revisit my series and many other blogs over the month of October.

Be Intentional

 Every week I'll email an encouragement to stay intentional and relational in all your family life.  But for now, download your set of reminder posters - posters which I've used over the years to remind me to keep my eyes and heart on what is important.

Thank you for joining me. You have successfully subscribed and will receive an email from me shortly. (You never know which folder emails will land in so keep an eye out for my "Thank you" email.) Stay in touch... Belinda - Live life with your Kids!

Download your worksheet and start working on your family vision statement.

Get the Family Vision Worksheet

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Individual Education Planning Worksheets - brainstorming every area of your child's life.

Get your Planning Worksheets

I will email you the download link so you can start looking at all the different spheres of your child's life before you make any curriculum choices. 

The download link is on it's way.

Get a copy of the Jelly Bean Story

I will email you a download link.  You can print and share this story with your kids and their friends.

The download link is on it's way.

This parent guide helps parents plan family bible study and use discussion techniques to teach the important lessons.

Bible study Guide for Parents

Guide includes tips, planning worksheet, and discussion prompts. I will email you a download link.  

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Obedience looks a bit different as our kids grow older. Download this parent/teen discussion guide to understand this issue of obedience in teen years.

Download your Free Discussion Guide

Don't assume your kids are rebelling - instead talk to them about what Obedience looks like now they are older.  I will email you a download link.  

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download yourCharacter Certificates

Though true character is driven by internal motivation, our children will appreciate when we see that they are growing in character.

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download your Character Certificates

Though true character is driven by internal motivation, our children will appreciate when we see that they are growing in character.

The download link is on it's way.

Over 20 different verbal expressions divided into heart or self control to help parents discern these behaviours.

Download your Cheat Sheet

I will send you the link to download this cheat sheet that will help you discern between a heart attitude and a lack of skill.

Thanks for being here! The download link is on it's way.

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Download Grow in Character Worksheets

You will receive an email shortly with the details. Watch your inbox.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Download Parenting Poster

Download Parenting Poster

Learn to respond to your child in a way that changes their heart.

 

I will email you the download link.

The download link is on it's way.

Download Parenting Poster

Download Parenting Poster

 

Learn to respond to your child in a way that changes their heart.

 

I will email you the download link.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Our children hear different words when we react to when we respond. Do your children hear blah blah blah when you correct them? Includes a parenting poster.

Download Parenting Poster

 

When we Respond instead of React we find a way to deal with the heart not just behaviour.

 

I will email you the download link.

Thank you for being here - your download link will arrive shortly.

Pin It on Pinterest