In this 31 days series I’m looking at ways that I can make way for family life; choices that can simplify my lifestyle, making way for to me to live life with my kids! All posts can be found here.
Making time for Friends
We all need friends. Friendships, as all relationships, need time. So in the midst of a busy lifestyle when and how can we make time for friends?
A few mindset changes
- A visit doesn’t take all morning or all afternoon. In the days of when we had neighbours and you would just pop in for a cuppa a visit wasn’t a big deal – but now we have to drive to our friends place we tend to make it an event. It needn’t be. I am training myself to pop in for 1-1.5 hours.
- From an early age I taught my kids to respect my time with my friends. They were to play quietly while mummy chatted with her friend.
- Phone call is a visit – I expected my kids to behave like they would if we were visiting – afterall I am still talking to my friend.
- Dad doesn’t babysit – Peter isn’t the babysitter – he is their dad, this changes how I ask if he is available to help me so I can go out. It also changes how I respond to the things he does with the kids while I’m away.
Being a busy mum means we have to think intentionally about the different opportunities to catch up with friends.
- Do morning tea / afternoon tea. This isn’t so out of the box but instead of going to a coffee shop, invite your friends to your house – prepare a box of toys for their kids, and a special tray for your visit.
- Do lunch – once again make it a home lunch. It doesn’t have to be fancy – I often do salad or a cheese platter. I have had friends put their little ones to sleep at my house so they could have a visit. I have also asked my big kids to look after the other kids and supervise lunch, so my friend and I could visit alone.
- Do breakfast in the park (I’ve also done breakfast at home). I’ve packed a picnic style breakfast and we’ve met at the park with or without kids.
- Use the evenings: maybe catch up for just coffee or maybe dessert. Of course this can be in your home, but eating a dessert someone else made is always a treat!
- BYO Dinner. We’ve asked family friends over for dinner but asked them to bring their dinner with them. They ate their dinner, we ate ours. This reduced a lot of stress for a mid-week dinner date. Other times we’ve done a traditional potluck style where we bring and share.
- Invite another family to join your weekend activity – going to a waterhole, family games time, or just sitting around a campfire.
Spending time together doesn’t have to be about food – but we do often make it about food. Food says welcome and it says I want to spend time with you. Besides we have to eat sometime – it may as well be with a friend!