Everyone has different Gifts
Every person in our family is unique – they have been made with a different personality, different passions and different talents. While our family is a corporate thing where we do things together for the benefit of the whole, we are also individuals and the family needs to support and encourage those differences.
A few years back I took Daniel to the plumbers so he could buy something he needed to fix something around the house. The lady behind the counter was a bit surprised that I was leaving everything up to Daniel, because of his age, and I quickly said, “It is his thing – he knows what he is doing.” We went on to talk about a time where Josh was trying to fix something too high for Daniel to reach and he was having trouble. Daniel stood on the ground and gave instructions which enabled Josh to finish the job. The lady at the plumbers was surprised and was sure that the older brother (Joshua) would not have taken kindly to being told what to do by his younger brother. I shared with her that we support each other’s talents and abilities and if one person knows how to do something and we don’t, then we listen to their advice.
This is what being a family is all about. We can’t all know everything about everything. We can’t all have all skills. But when we work together, drawing on each other’s gifts and abilities we are much more able as a family.
- If we want to clarify something on science – we’ll go to Peter
- If it is history we want to know about – we go to Joshua
- If we want to know a Bible verse – we go to Jess
- If we want a gift wrapped extra creatively – we go to Naomi
- If we want a photograph taken – we ask Daniel
These are just a snippet of the different things we recognise in each other.
Ephesians 5:21 says: Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. This is the basis of our working together.
Two heart attitudes that we work on as a family:
- Praising each other – not only do parents need to praise our children, but our children can learn to praise each other as well. When Jess was just a little girl, probably around 4-5 years old, she would say to her big brother, “You did good Josh!” She has an encouraging heart and is able to recognise the good in others. We all need to develop this.
- Saying thanks to each other – The simple manners of saying ‘thankyou’ can easily be overlooked in family life – we become so familiar with each other. Saying ‘thank you’ says that I have noticed how you have helped me and I am grateful.
Can you recognise how the different gifts and abilities in your family work together for the benefit of your family?