In Randy Frazee’s book, Making Room for Life, he set out a plan for dividing our day into three priorities: work, rest and play. The busier our society gets the less balance we have, and to be honest the less health and the less happiness (if that can be measured!). Seeing my day with three priorities has helped me find balance: work, rest and play.
Work: I have a variety of tasks that fall into the work category – looking after my family, my home, community and church commitments, as well as any business ventures all are work for the wife/mother/homemaker.
Rest: this is where my body recuperates – it is partly sleep, and partly rejuvenating activity (which differs for each of us).
Play: this is the time of my day where I interact with other people and enjoy recreational activities (like crafts, sport, movies, visiting friends etc).
Though some may try and assign certain hours to each category I find this unrealistic for the mum. When our children are young we are going to have less time for play (and even less sleep!!), when we get older ourselves we need to make sure we make time for rest. Life has its seasons and those seasons will dictate how we go through these three phases of our day. The key for me is to recognise each phase and to make sure that I find the balance appropriate for where I am at.
When I see these three phases to my day, I tend to make the most of what I am doing at that moment. I can enjoy rest because I have worked hard. I can work hard because my body is rested. I can enjoy life not because my work is done, but because I have balance in my days and I know work will be there for me to get into tomorrow.
One of the traps we fall into is not allowing rest or pleasure into my day until all my work is done. All my work will never be done! This is a reality we must accept! God rested on the 7th day not because he was done and dusted with the earth but because he paused and enjoyed! He is still at work in his creation.
So often we talk about finding balance in our life but unless we break our life down into years, months, days, hours…. It is just an overwhelming idea – a good idea, but overwhelming. If we can break our day down into three parts (not necessarily equal) then we will be on the way to finding balance in our week, year….life.