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We have been home now long enough to be into our study routine – but it just isn’t working.  So now is a good time for a review – what isn’t working and why.

  • The kids are wafting around and are not really being extended or even applying effort
  • Bible study is boring and not relevant
  • When computers aren’t available the kids have nothing to do so are wasting time

Solutions

  • Find a unit study for each child to do while they are waiting for the computer (so they can work on their photo album).  Naomi has chosen Australian history and Daniel has chosen Galileo.  These units will both be fairly independent from my direct input and require reading and writing, and Daniel’s will involve hands on experiments.
  • Bible study –I have decided to complete an overview study we had started some time ago – 30 Days to Understanding the Bible by Max Anders.  I have gone through and done the study myself (I’ve done the Old Testament part so far), so that I have examples of taking notes and notebook pages from scratch.  I have also taken notes of the heart issues that I would like to discuss with the kids.  This has given me purpose and enthusiasm for the study which I hope will be contagious.
  • We need to tighten our morning routine (how many years have I been saying that!!)  I need to get back to the goal of being off the computer by 6.30 MAX.

Here are the questions that I asked myself when I started to see that things weren’t going as I wished them to:

  1.  Why?  Why are they wafting?  Why are they not extended?  Why are the computers not available?  Why is Bible study boring?  Why is everyone not applying themselves and enjoying our learning experiences?  Why do we not start on time?  Why Why Why!!   To answer these questions takes some honesty.   Sometimes we have no idea why something is happening in our home and so it takes a good week or so to start observing.  So if you need to go through this process, don’t think that you’ll get through it in a day – it may take you a while to assess what is going on in your home properly.
  2. Look back to see when things started fraying – when were things good.  What where you doing then, why aren’t you doing that now?  Can you pick it up again or have other things changed meaning you need to move on?
  3.  Have your children grown in their study skills – reading, writing, asking questions, finding answers – needing you to up your expectations?   Are your goals age appropriate?  Developmentally appropriate?  Skills level appropriate?  I have found times where I don’t want to let something go because it was a really really good idea and we haven’t finished it, or we didn’t use it like I had hoped and I hang onto that idea but my children’s needs have moved on and I’m not meeting them.
  4. Have your children developed a passion which could be used to encourage their learning?
  5. Am I enthusiastic about our days?  My enthusiasm will either energise the kids or drain them.

It is easy to let myself be disheartened that things have come to this but reality is all our goals need assessment and tweaking as we go along.  If we don’t look honestly at things in our family we kid ourselves and eventually bigger gaping holes will appear – ones we can’t ignore.   It is better to see that things aren’t working, that your plans haven’t met your needs, that your children aren’t responding – deal with these things now, and you have an opportunity to change things before you’ve lost too much time.

Next week – we try again!

 

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