When I tell people that I homeschool one of the most common responses are “I could never do that!” Though I don’t believe homeschooling is the only way to go, or the right thing for every family I disagree with this instant assessment of their situation.
Comparing your current life with a homeschooling life is simply not comparing apples to apples.
The thing I remember of our first week of homeschooling is the lack of rush, of not being dictated to by the school bus and school hours and the peace of knowing that when I left home things were under control. These things change the dynamics of your family life and the stresses and pressures you have today are not going to be the stresses and pressures you have as a homeschool mum.
Another thing that changes is that when you bring your children home, the influences of peers decrease (it is still there of course, as they still have friends, but it is reduced) and this means you have an opportunity to strengthen your relationship and sibling relationships. Once again the dynamics of your family change. Things don’t become perfect, but you cannot compare your children now, with what it will be like once they homeschool.
When you are sending your kids to school you have limited time to address the heart issues that you know need addressing. Once you start homeschooling, the heart issues will more than likely still be there – but you are in control of how you spend your time, so if you want to focus on attitude or character you can – you don’t have to open the math books until their heart is right.
You will also notice a change because you will be aware of what they are learning and how they are learning. Homeschool resources are mother-friendly and you are able to help your child learn. When Josh was at preschool the teacher really discouraged me from teaching him too much more than his peers were learning, though she did acknowledge he needed more than the class was giving him. The difference between Josh and Jess at this age, was amazing and all because I was directing what she was learning and had the freedom to go at her individual pace.
So if you are considering homeschooling don’t try to add homeschooling to the lifestyle and pressures you have now – your life will completely change. You will have to look at your out of the home commitments differently, you will spend more time with your children and your relationship with them will change. You will also view education and their lessons differently.
Homeschooling may not be for you but when you consider it consider the changes it will bring to your whole life as well as the changes it will bring to your children’s life.