Q. How do you spend one on one time with each of your children?
I don’t! I have read that it is a good thing to do but I have just never been able to get to it. One of the other mums answered this question by saying that she takes little moments as they present themselves – a moment for a cuddle, a kiss, a conversation, a ride in the car, doing a chore together etc. I do these types of things but as far as scheduling in one on one dates – I have just never got there.
Another lady answered that her and her husband do take their children out on dates – one month she takes the boys and he takes the girls, and then the next month they swap. I think this is a great idea – but it has never worked for us simply because Peter’s work takes him away from home so much.
I know I have one on one conversations with my kids – and I know I have taught my kids (or am teaching them) to respect those conversations – they don’t have to get involved in every conversation in the house! I also know that there are times when I am going somewhere and I have only one child with me. This is a great opportunity for us to chat about things that are important to that child.
As my children grow older there have been times that the older one stays up and watches a movie or some TV with me. After 7.30pm has traditionally been ‘my’ time so it is an adjustment to share this time with my older kids but it is a nice relaxed time but we rarely talk about anything serious. It is more about just being together (and the movie!) – and it doesn’t happen every night.
But as for the intentional planning a date with your child – haven’t done it!
This post is a part of a series springing from the Q&A session at the Mum Heart Conference. I’m taking time to answer these questions this week as I think they are helpful questions for most homeschooling mums at some time in their journey….