Just lately we’ve been working a lot with Jess as she works through her thinking on the way we homeschool. You see, when our children are young they simply follow in what you want for them, when they grow up they start thinking these things through for themselves. It would be easy to see this questioning as rebellion (and I wonder how many parents make this mistake). Most times, it isn’t rebellion (wanting to pull away from your values) but rather simply questioning and trying to understand in order to develop a value of their own.
If we can’t answer them in a convincing way then it is unlikely they will carry our values on to the next generation. 2 Tim 4:2 Preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching. Whenever we explain the scriptural reasons for why we do something – that is preaching the word – and when it comes to our teens – we need to be ready, in season and out (that is, when we feel like it and when we don’t!)
Our children will not walk in our values unless we can
- Live them
- Explain them
- Teach them
- Help our kids live them
Values are not passed on by osmosis – they are passed on by relationship and living our values for all to see. We often have answers for the neighbour, the inlaws, and our friends but do we have thought out, informative, even convincing answers for our children. Why do you homeschool? Why do you do it this way and not that way? What is the most important thing to you in keeping your children home? Do you know? Do your children know?
These questions are valid for any value based decision you have made, not just homeschooling. Why do you invite strangers home after church? Why do you run mid-week Bible study in your home? Why do you not? Why do you support a Compassion Child or an overseas mission? Why do you send your kids to youth group – or why do you not? Why do you do the things you do? Do you know why? Do your children know why?
Also sharing and linking with others:
Throughout the week I share with one, or more of these blogs (see more details on my Link Parties page)
Monday’s Musings, Thoughtful Spot, Hip Homeschool Moms Blog Hop, Titus 2 Tuesdays, Coffee and Conversation, Finishing Strong (Middle & Highschool years), Capture your Journey, Thriving Thursdays, Hearts for Home, A Little R & R, From House to Home, Fellowship Fridays, Homeschooling Highschool Linkup, Weekly Wrap-up, Collage Fridays