We all know we need to tell our kids stuff but at the same time having to tell them things over and over again would be one of our biggest complaints.  We need to get a bigger understanding of what is going on here.  We aren’t to just tell our kids stuff- giving them one instruction after the next – we need to be instructing their heart.

What does instructing the heart look like?  The Bible uses the word heart to mean our mind, our soul, our emotions, our will, our character and our passions. This means we are to give instructions to our kids’ minds, their soul, their emotions, their will, their character and their passions.  How many of us do that – we are more inclined to instruct their actions.  We want right behaviour.

And yet, I believe we short change ourselves (and our children) when we just aim for right behaviour.  When we instruct their behaviour  they know what is the right thing to do and are likely to do it when you are there watching.   When we instruct the inward parts it gives our children the ability to think for themselves, to make decisions for themselves, to choose a godly path by themselves (which is ultimately our goal).

We all know that what is inside a man comes out in his actions, words and attitudes.  The thing we have to ask ourselves – are we putting in the right stuff?  Are we giving instruction, direction, words of wisdom to help our children grow in their beliefs, their understandings, their decision making process, their character and their passions?   If not we are telling them the wrong stuff!

Further Reading

Heart Focus Parenting: Heart Focus Parenting teaches our children to be personally responsible for their beliefs, character, choices, emotions and passions. It is these things that will shape their choices and decisions.

The Alert Parent gives Instructions to the Heart  Parenting is a 24/7 job – we will always be on the look out for situations that will challenge our child’s heart – their beliefs, character, passions and emotions – and then give instruction that strengthens their heart.

What Heart Messages do you Communicate when you Discipline your Child? After reading ‘”Discipline that Connects with your Child’s Heart” I have a fresh appreciation for the heart messages that we leave when we discipline.

Danger of Losing Your Child’s Heart (Guest Post)  Melanie Redd is talking about the danger of losing our kids heart and shares two stories that stand out in particular, and then offers a quick quiz to help you assess your parenting.

Don’t Trust in Rules: Legalism vs. Heart – Where is your Trust?  When we put our trust in rules it just leads to legalism.  Instead we need to trust in Jesus and work towards our kids having a relationship with Him, which will bring life and truth to our kid’s heart.

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