Training our children is so time consuming. I am reminded of the scripture that says a man must count the cost before he builds a tower else hell be ridiculed for not completing it. Now I know this verse is talking about our decision to give up all and follow Jesus but it is a principle that applies to any project we take on. We need to count the cost.
There is a cost of raising morally responsible children who desire to love and serve the Lord. That cost is time. We should never be too busy or occupied to train our childrens hearts – that needs to be our number one focus. Are we prepared to take the time that this will require?
This will mean we need to:
- Sit up late at night prepared to talk things through
- Missing opportunities you personally were looking forward to
- Changing plans
- Being late
- Leaving early
When our children have a heart issue we need to stop everything else (as much as we can) and get to the bottom of it. How do we get to the bottom of it? Certainly not by a lecture. Chances are strong that our children already know the right and wrong of the situations they are facing; that is not the issue. The issue is they made a bad choice be that in attitude or action they made a bad choice.
Our choices are made because of what is in our heart
- Because of what we believe
- Because of what we are thinking about
- Because of resolutions weve made
- Because of the strength (or weakness) of our character
- Because of our self control over our emotions
Getting to the heart issues isnt about telling our children that theyve done wrong. Its not even about getting them to confess and apologise for what wrong theyve done. It includes those things, but it goes further. It is about helping them believe differently about the issue at hand, to understand differently and to determine to do differently next time because of this change of heart. It also includes enabling them, giving them the tools necessary to do differently next time. This takes time.
Working on these things means our children need time to reflect on their belief system. They need time to reflect on what drove their actions what was in their heart that allowed this to happen. What was not in their heart that allowed this to happen? What should have been in their heart? Why is it not? These are the types of questions that our children need time to reflect upon. As they find the answers the Holy Spirit convicts and they can come to a place where they want to change. We cannot demand they change their heart.
But this takes time are you prepared to give time to your children when they most need it when their hearts are turned towards selfishness instead of towards Gods Word? Remember a lecture wont change their hearts, but loving guidance towards Jesus will. Will you take the time today?
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